EP 72 Out of Africa: Relational Lessons from the WILD

Imagine bringing the instincts of the African wilderness into your most intimate relationship: read what’s happening, trust your senses, know when to lead, know when to follow, adapt when conditions change, and never assume today will be like yesterday. Fresh from nearly 10 days in the wild, we sit down with wilderness guide and Black Lion author Big C to uncover what lions, elephants and the living landscape can teach you about power, partnership, individuality, cooperation and sex. Somewhere in the conversation, Dr. Saida stops him: “Every word you said can be translated to the bedroom.” And that’s exactly where we take it. Then, in the Erotic Insert, we put the lesson into practice. Aaron Michael had just tried intimate waxing for the first time, which left him tender, turned on, and unable to play in some of our usual ways. So what happens when you want each other, but the usual trail is closed? Listen in as we negotiate boundaries, read each other’s bodies moment by moment, discover that what worked before isn’t necessarily what feels good today, and get creative with the pleasure that IS available. Because your partner isn’t the same person every day. Neither is their body. Neither are you. Stop assuming you know the trail. Pay attention. Adapt. And discover what’s actually possible between you now.